Best Apps For Gay BDSM Dating


Thanks to dating apps like Tinder and Grindr, hooking up with local gay or bi guys in your area has never been easier. However, finding someone on these sites who is interested in the fetish scene might prove to be a little difficult, as the users on these kind of apps are overwhelmingly vanilla.

Luckily, there are some apps dedicated purely towards the gay and bi demographics. While some apps are still relatively new and therefore still struggling with under-population and bug issues, there are some which are well established and offer thriving communities and user bases. These are the best three:


While is one of the most high profile gay kink sites out there, it launched itself into the app world a few years ago. Recon is aimed purely at those with a penchant for fetish play, from light BDSM play right through to the hardcore stuff.

The app is perfectly designed in order for you to specify search results based on your particular kink, and there’s a vast user base to choose from. The app allows for geographical filtering in order to find people nearby and the monthly fees are reasonable in comparison to similar apps.

While you might struggle to find your future husband on the site, many people have reported Recon as a gateway to the larger BDSM scene. The majority of users are looking for kinky fun and nothing else, but if that’s what you’re looking for, Recon has you covered.


KNKI is a little more than a dating app, it’s a social media network for those interested in the fetish world. You can create a profile, make posts and comments, use hashtags, flirt with people publically or privately – it’s very much the Twitter for kinsters.

Because of the incredible amount of users already signed up for KNKI, this gives you a much larger search pool if you’re looking for gay BDSM dating. The app is free to download and install, but there are some limitations in place regarding messaging other users. These restrictions can be lifted with several one-time payments.

If you’re looking for a community and building relationships as opposed to hooking up other gay or bisexual BDSMers, KNKI is the app for you.

As the name suggests, GayBDSMDate caters specifically to gay men looking to find a like-minded partner in the fetish world. Like Recon, it has a vast amount of users already signed up, meaning you can jump right into a pool full of similar people to yourself.

One of the biggest advantages of GayBDSMDate is that the free membership gives you more than enough flexibility to decide if this is the site for you. You’re allowed a handful of free messages and profile views before needing to sign up for the premium membership, but by this point, you will have gotten a feel for whether you want to invest or not.

Given the vast population of GayBDSMDate, this is the perfect place if you’re looking for some kinky gay BDSM Sex. Searches on here can be narrowed down to very specific results, meaning you’re sure to find someone who fits your exact kinky criteria.

Another notable BDSM app is